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deskitty
deskitty
Des
Tue, Jan. 22nd, 2013 04:07 pm
Further Confusion was a thing

I've been pretty sour on conventions on in general lately, because I'm just not a big-crowd kind of person, and the whole furry thing has been less and less interesting to me of late. At this point, cons are mainly a way for me to see people who live far away, and whom I otherwise wouldn't get a chance to see.

That's mostly what I did at FC this year. I went to a few events, but for the most part I just wandered around, catching up with people. It was good, and there was almost no drama for me personally, although some people close to me had some drama (it's a furry con, after all).

Now that FC is at the San Jose Convention Center, it's gotten progressively more annoying to get there and to leave. I can't complain too much, since it really wouldn't fit anywhere else at this point, but logistics were definitely annoying and took up more time than I would have liked.

We were also double-booked with VolleyballCon this year (as we were last year). I personally don't mind sharing space--it's a big world, after all--but there is always some friction. Last year, enough volleyball parents were butt-hurt that it made the newspaper (since they were also double-booked with HempCon 6 months prior). This year, a few of the volleyball folks were tweeting impolite things about furries. That's really not-cool -- we made an effort to keep things separate, and most of us try very hard to ensure we don't make non-furries feel uncomfortable.

What's even more not-cool, however, was a few furries' response to those tweets. There was some mockery, trolling, and general impoliteness on our side as well. There was even an unflattering picture of a dude making a stupid face wearing a T-shirt with some rude words about one of the volleyball players scrawled in Sharpie. That's pretty much middle-school humor and unacceptable coming from people who are (supposed to be) adults, especially when it's directed at teens who don't know any better.

So a few people from both sides got into it (virtually) when they really shouldn't have. But I feel like for the most part, everyone else was respectful of each other. A few bad apples won't ruin a con (or two cons), so I'm glad we managed to mostly get along.

Volleyball drama notwithstanding, it was a good con. I got to see most of the people I wanted to, and didn't get too overwhelmed at all the crowds and noise. And now I'm back at Boy's house, getting caught up on the rest of life and getting some quiet time in before I have to go back to the grind.

-- Des

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ensuing
ensuing
Lord Ace of the Fictional Lands
Wed, Jan. 23rd, 2013 12:25 am (UTC)

Sorry to hear about the logistics annoyance and that childish behavior, but glad it was a good con!

Nur and I happened to have a meeting in the area on Saturday and had no clue it was FC weekend! Everyone we passed seemed to be in such good spirits! It was sort of contagious, even just in passing. =D


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deskitty
deskitty
Des
Wed, Jan. 23rd, 2013 12:35 am (UTC)

Haha, sorry we missed you then! It was definitely upbeat this year, so I'm glad it was contagious. ;)

I suspect the logistics will only get worse as the con gets bigger, it's one of the occupational hazards I suppose. On the one hand, it's nice to see that it's so popular we had to expand to the convention center, but on the other, I did like it when it was much smaller 5 years ago.

Oh well, that's progress for you... ;P


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netolu
netolu
Netolu Shadowlin
Wed, Jan. 23rd, 2013 02:17 am (UTC)

I'm very glad I managed to spend at least a few minutes talking with you. One of these days I'll actually have something interesting happen in my life, and I'll tell you all about it!


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deskitty
deskitty
Des
Thu, Jan. 24th, 2013 08:29 am (UTC)

Same here. It's always nice to catch up.


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darkone238
darkone238
Darkenwolf
Wed, Jan. 23rd, 2013 05:24 am (UTC)

Glad I saw you, and sorry that you're feeling more distanced from furries :(


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deskitty
deskitty
Des
Thu, Jan. 24th, 2013 08:49 am (UTC)

Yes, it was nice to catch up, even if we didn't have that much space to do it in.

I think it's somewhat inevitable -- priorities change, life moves on and such. Furries are a fun diversion, but they don't have much to do with what I want to do in this life. The most important thing I get out of it is my social group, but then it becomes more about those specific people and less about the fandom. I spent way more time at con talking about life, work, and how we relate to each other as humans than I did about anything remotely furry.

The fandom provides a common social context. It's valuable because it makes that communication easier, especially with new people. But at some point you have to grow beyond it as well.

Don't get me wrong, I'm still a cat. ;3 I got into furry in the first place because I like cats and I can relate to/identify with them. But the idea of spending an entire weekend doing little else than being a cat isn't that appealing anymore.


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darkone238
darkone238
Darkenwolf
Thu, Jan. 24th, 2013 05:21 pm (UTC)

That makes sense. For me furry is about the social and the culture, but also about the art and the cute. I don't foresee growing out of loving commissions and furry artwork or loving to romp around like an idiot with a tail :3

That said I'm glad you still go to these things so I can see you, but I hope you're getting something else out of it aside from an expensive place to see people you already see anyway.


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deskitty
deskitty
Des
Thu, Jan. 24th, 2013 08:03 pm (UTC)

It's mostly about seeing people. I'm okay with spending the money, though, because in reality I probably wouldn't see them otherwise, or at least I wouldn't see them as much. Everyone will be in the same place at the same time, and it means less planning/travel overall.

So I still feel like it's a pretty good use of time/money, even though the format isn't very conducive to small groups and dedicated catch-up time.


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